Can Kate be the mum she really wants to be?

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Can Kate be the mum she really wants to be?

1.7K May 7, 2018
Despite what anyone says, it can't be easy to be Kate Middleton. The Duchess of Cambridge has a host of responsibilities that she is obliged to carry out as part of her busy royal schedule. She has also always been determined to be a very 'hands-on' mum.  But now, as a mum of three, I wonder if Kate can still be the mother she clearly wants to be with such an array of responsibilities or if the gilded cage of royal life will take its toll?
What are some of the Duchess of Cambridge's most memorable moments in public? Her sweet interactions with her children, of course. For many, it was throughout the wedding ceremony of her sister, Pippa Middleton to hedge-fund manager, James Matthews last year. The couple tied the knot at St Mark's Church in Englefield. As radiant as the bride was on the day, it was Kate's mothering skills that made most of the headlines — some were even turned into memes that went viral. Big sister Kate demonstrated her ability to coax, cajole and at times, glare the excitable youngsters into action as they prepared to perform Very Important wedding duties for their Auntie. At one point, Kate was seen sweetly showing Charlotte what to do prior to walking down the aisle. She took George aside for a stern mummy word but came across as a very natural, capable mother which every mum in the country could relate to. We all know that feeling of trying to parent under pressure — the difference is that we don't have the world's media trained on our every move as we sweat and squirm our way through tough parenting moments. 
It is quite apparent that Kate's devotion to her children remains her most important role to date. On a family royal tour in Germany, she stopped what she was doing and knelt down beside her daughter, the adorable Princess Charlotte who was rubbing her eyes, clearly having had enough of looking at the helicopters in Hamburg and gently spoke to her in concern. In Canada, she reprimanded little George when he started getting a bit too giddy squirting bubbles during another royal engagement. Parenting in the public eye prompts judgement — a judgement that Kate is only too aware of, but taking the time to do it anyway, despite the cameras, is commendable. William and Kate's children come across as very well-mannered, bubbly and sweet — also a testament to their very considered parenting decisions. According to People, Kate Middleton spoke in the past about how her own upbringing influences her role as a mum. 
«My parents taught me about the importance of qualities like kindness, respect, and honesty, and I realize how central values like these have been to me throughout my life. That is why William and I want to teach our children just how important these things are as they grow up. In my view,it is just as important as excelling at maths or sport.»
Perhaps Kate's relatability when it comes to motherhood is why she is one of the most popular royals. When she visited the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists Society to speak about mental health for parents and children, she famously described motherhood as 'overwhelming' and a 'huge challenge' — proving that sometimes having children really is a great leveller. But despite her determination to be a good mother, Kate Middleton is compromised. She has another role to fulfil and much of it doesn't involve her children. She has a duty to attend relentless official engagements to represent the British Royal Family. As well as that, she has her own commitments that she has chosen to get involved in. In 2013, the Duchess of Cambridge worked right up until Prince George was born and returned to royal duties when he was just a month old. Kate attended the Trooping of the Colours on June 15, 2013 – which was her last appearance before giving birth – and returned on August 20, 2013, for the Ring O'Fire Anglesey Coastal Ultra Marathon in North Wales. When she had Princess Charlotte, she gave herself a little more time with her newborn and didn't return to official duties until the baby was four months old to attend the Anna Freud Centre in London.
It would be easy to dismiss Kate as a demure persona, only fulfilling her royal duties out of a sense of obligation, but gradually it seems over the past year that she is keen to make use of her platform and this momentum in her work life shows just how far she has come. In the last few months, she has performed double the engagements she undertook during her pregnancies with Prince George or Princess Charlotte despite suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum. What's more, Duchess Kate has carried out more engagements that either Prince William or Prince Harry since she returned to work in October last year. She performed 46 public engagements in the next six months, as compared with 44 for William and 31 for Harry.  Kate's engagements are also becoming more and more meaningful. No longer an accessory at her husband's side at parades, (although there will always be some of that) she has just taken on three more patronages bringing her total to fifteen in the area of children and health. She also has much more substantive roles in various steering committees which include round-table discussions where she can actually affect change — for the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, Nursing Now, and the V&A Museum. 
Naturally, there is nothing new when it comes to juggling work and children and it doesn't take being a princess to realise that getting the balance right will always be difficult. But as much as Kate's attitude towards motherhood is relatable, we cannot fully comprehend what life must be like as a royal. Despite the privileges that come with that lifestyle, it is easy to see how it must also sometimes represent a gilded cage. Laura Erskine is the Head of Community for MummyPages.ie online parenting community, she says Kate has her head screwed on when it comes to the responsibilities she has taken on:
«Kate Middleton has a number of important roles since joining the royal family but none so important as being a mum to Prince George and Princess Charlotte. The Duchess certainly has to juggle her royal commitments with family life, like so many working mums, but she does so with her children's needs always to the forefront of her mind. So far, Kate has demonstrated to the nation that she is a practical, down-to-earth mother in raising Prince George and Princess Charlotte to be the best versions of themselves instilling her values and that of Prince William in shaping their personalities and development. Of course, she is going to find it increasingly difficult to balance her parental duties with her royal duties with a third child. But like every working mum, she will lean on her family and support network in order to carry out her responsibilities and undoubtedly will do so with the grace and style she effortlessly exudes.» 
It is that grace and style that continue to glue us to the television as we now wait for Kate to emerge from the hospital with the newest royal babe in arms. We will obsess about her skin and how perfect her post-pregnancy style is and admire her hair. We will be dying to see how she looks at the next big event — the wedding of Harry and Meghan and we cannot wait to see George and Charlotte with their newest family member. We love Kate Middleton because she is just like us, but shinier — her openly affectionate nature with her children helps her come across as down-to-earth and her strong great work ethic is admirable.  As she approaches her eighth year as a royal and now as a mum of three, Kate is slowly carving a very meaningful role for herself and seems to be busier than ever. 
Perhaps Kate's relatability when it comes to motherhood is why she is one of the most popular royals. When she visited the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists Society to speak about mental health for parents and children, she famously described motherhood as 'overwhelming' and a 'huge challenge' — proving that sometimes having children really is a great leveller. But despite her determination to be a good mother, Kate Middleton is compromised. She has another role to fulfil and much of it doesn't involve her children. She has a duty to attend relentless official engagements. In 2013, the Duchess of Cambridge worked right up until Prince George was born and returned to royal duties when he was just a month old. Kate attended the Trooping of the Colours on June 15, 2013 – which was her last appearance before giving birth – and returned on August 20, 2013, for the Ring O'Fire Anglesey Coastal Ultra Marathon in North Wales. When she had Princess Charlotte she gave herself a little more time with her newborn and didn't return to official duties until the baby was four months old to attend the Anna Freud Centre in London.
It would be easy to dismiss Kate as a demure persona, only fulfilling her royal duties out of obligation but gradually it seems as if, despite being a mum of three, that she is keen to make use of her platform and shows just how far she has come. In the last few months, she has performed double the engagements she undertook during her pregnancies with Prince George or Princess Charlotte despite suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum. What's more, Duchess Kate has carried out more engagements that either Prince William or Prince Harry since she returned to work in October last year. She performed 46 public engagements in the next six months, as compared with 44 for William and 31 for Harry.  Kate's engagements are also becoming more and more meaningful. No longer an accessory at her husband's side at parades (although there will always be some of that) she has just taken on three more patronages bringing her total to fifteen in the area of children and health. She also has much more substantive roles in various steering committees which include round-table discussions where she can actually lead change — for the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, Nursing Now, and the V &A Museum. 
Naturally, there is nothing new when it comes to juggling work and children and it doesn't take a princess to realise that getting the balance right will always be difficult. But as much as Kate's attitude towards motherhood is relatable, we cannot fully comprehend what life must be like as a royal and despite the privileges that come with it, it is easy to see how it must also sometimes represent a gilded cage. Laura Erskine is the Head of Community for MummyPages.ie online parenting community, she says Kate has her head screwed on when it comes to the responsibilities she has taken on:
«Kate Middleton has a number of important roles since joining the royal family but none so important as being a mum to Prince George and Princess Charlotte. The Duchess certainly has to juggle her royal commitments with family life, like so many working mums, but she does so with her children's needs always to the forefront of her mind. So far, Kate has demonstrated to the nation that she is a practical, down-to-earth mother in raising Prince George and Princess Charlotte to be the best versions of themselves instilling her values and that of Prince William in shaping their personalities and development. Of course, she is going to find it increasingly difficult to balance her parental duties with her royal duties with a third child. But like every working mum, she will lean on her family and support network in order to carry out her responsibilities and undoubtedly will do so with the grace and style she effortlessly exudes.» 
It is that grace and style that continue to glue us to the television as we see Kate to emerge from the hospital with her new baby son in arms. We will obsess about her skin and how perfect her post-pregnancy style is and 'wow, that hair'. We will be dying to see how she looks at the next big event — the wedding of Harry and Meghan. We love Kate Middleton because she is just like us, but shinier — she is very openly affectionate with her children and has a great work ethic. As she approaches her eighth year as a royal and now as a mum of three, she is slowly carving a very meaningful role for herself and seems to be busier than ever. 
 
 
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